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Destructive Language & The Dirty Thirty

“Thoughtless words can wound like a sword.” – Proverbs 12:18

I wanted to share with you all something very interesting and thought-provoking. One of my favorite books is “The 10 Commandments of Common Sense” by Hal Urban. Of course there are the original 10 Commandments in the Bible which we are commanded by God to follow; it is the universal code of living. Now, I especially enjoyed this book because it touched on 10 more commandments which we should incorporate into our daily lives. It doesn’t matter what your religion is, what your beliefs are, or what part of the world you’re in, it’s safe to say that these commandments are universal.

3rd Commandment: DON’T USE DESTRUCTIVE LANGUAGE. (It hurts others, as well as yourself.)

In this chapter, the author (who is a teacher at a high school and also, a professor at a university) talks about how at the beginning of each school year, he puts a generous amount of time and energy into creating a positive environment in each of his classes. His high school students, as well as his adult students, participated in a class exercise where they compiled a list of different ways in which we can spray poison into our environment with our tongues without even realizing it. They gave the list a nickname and I would like to share this list with you.

The Dirty Thirty

  1. Bragging
  2. Swearing and other gross-out language
  3. Gossip
  4. Angry words
  5. Lies
  6. Mean-spirited and hurtful words
  7. Judgmental words
  8. Playing “poor me” – the self-pity game
  9. Making discouraging remarks
  10. Embarrassing and humiliating others
  11. Excessive fault-finding and criticism
  12. Complaining, whining, moaning, and groaning
  13. Rude and inconsiderate language
  14. Teasing
  15. Using words to manipulate others
  16. Phony and insincere compliments; false flattery
  17. Ethnic and racial slurs
  18. Sexist comments
  19. Age-related put-downs
  20. Being negative; always pointing out what’s wrong
  21. Threats
  22. Arguing
  23. Interrupting
  24. Playing “trump” – always topping someone else’s story
  25. Being a know-it-all
  26. Sarcasm
  27. Yelling, screaming
  28. Talking down to people; being condescending
  29. Exaggerating; blowing things out of proportion
  30. Blaming and accusing others

Honestly, how many of these things are we really guilty of?! Truthfully speaking, when I first read this list, I was so disgusted with myself! I can point out a good 20 things I need to work on like, immediately! I’ve had my fair share of saying things I didn’t mean and have later come to regret them. We all have. We’re human. However, I’ve came to realize that if I were to watch my words to begin with, I would leave no room for regret. I consider myself a very positive person and yes, there are days where I feel like I’m down in the dumps, but I keep positive people around me and read positive books. I pray, I talk to myself, I talk to friends who rejuvenate my spirit, I read, I write, I say positive affirmations daily, and I have definitely seen a substantial amount of growth over the years. Not only has this book been an eye-opener, but the list above is a “reality check” because we truly do not realize the countless number of ways we can spray poison into our environment. It is so important to pay more attention to what comes out of our mouths.

Hal Urban went on to say that this list helps us understand more clearly why Solomon advised us to guard our lips. “He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.” – Proverbs 13:3. Equally important, James warned us of the poison we could spread with our tongues. “But the tongue can no man tame; it is a restless evil, it is full of deadly poison.” – James 3:8

It’s never too late to start working on yourself!!! Change starts from within! A good friend of mine, who is a personal trainer, told me about a 95 year old woman at his gym who gets it in! Now, if that’s not wanting to work on yourself, I don’t know what you’d call it!

  1. 05/21/2011 at 2:51 pm

    Trish, your love exudes a gift of humility which is heart felt. Really, this is great great giftedness! Your transparent communication of love through spoken word, is God’s power or Lucifer’s trickeration. We all have a choice..we can speak lovingly and bring life to a person or situation or we can choose the language of Lucifer and speak death to the spirit of a person or a situation. YOur very decision t o post this blog, was a message spoken in love….so, decisions are a part of the love language, which often speak louder than spoken word.

    We must choose, their is no middle ground, to which I say “be quiet” so that what we speak, which may be death, is not heard by any person or Lucifer’s fallen earth angels. Death words are oxyegn to the lungs of Lucifer’s earth angels….thus loving, gentle, kind and honest words must be our only option as believers, and a radical one during those times when we simply want, need or should go straight “hood rat”…..but, shhhhhhh let the heart of God allow us to be quiet or speak in love, in words or actions and we will be lovingly rewarded and blessed.

    Tris, thank you soooo much…for the obedient humility of this post, if we love the world, then what we speak must invite love to truly connect the light of our love with biblical scriptures. Your fantabulous post truly illuminates that point. Today, you unlocked, unpacked and unfolded that abundant love starts with lingusitics and never ends, as our love will manifest in others and the cycle of love becomes what Jesus desired…in all of us, world wide, and crosses all faith and non-faith communities. Yet, Jesus Christ, humbly lead the way and touched all with his WORDS as well as his miracles……and as Christian believers we must attract, mirror and reflect Jesus the Christ in our words.

    Trish, it is also true, that we can not convince everyone to change, thus we must also PROTECT Our souls from Destructive Language. In a world that follows the Luciferian Doctrine of “DO AS THY WHILST” or in plain english “DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO”, our ears are inviting in people whom produce words to beguile us into the Luciferian DOctrine. Whether people in music, radio, Text, email, friends folx on the telephone or business associates…we must not absorb those Destructive words that lead us to “DO AS THY WHILST”….the end game is the lake of Fire, for the soul.

    Be Blessed….(Not bad for a Sparty) Go Blue!!


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