Archive for May, 2011

Life is Like a… Rubik’s Cube

05/24/2011 1 comment

There are a thousand and one sayings that start with, “Life is like a…” Some of them I really like; the rest, not so much. Then, there are those that I’ve made up myself – like this.

“Life is like a Rubik’s Cube.” The other day, I was thinking… there are many similarities between my life and the world’s best-selling toy. I can definitely say that I look at my life as though it were a Rubik’s Cube. When I tried to do things my way, everything seemed dismantled, out-of-order, and nothing seemed to flow. This left the Cube looking impossible to solve; a chaos of colors. The things I was experiencing on the outside reflected me being basically a scatterbrain on the inside. Figuring out the algorithm didn’t happen overnight. It took prayer, faith, nothing but positive thoughts, a joyous heart, a peaceful mind, and knowing that God makes the impossible possible.  Now, for every thought, idea, or vision I have that aligns with what He has already planned for me, I can feel Him shifting the pieces around and layers of the same color start to form, row by row. For every goal/life milestone I reach, each side of the cube becomes complete. And when I truly live out my purpose in this life, the cube will be solved.

Categories: Thoughts

Destructive Language & The Dirty Thirty

05/19/2011 1 comment

“Thoughtless words can wound like a sword.” – Proverbs 12:18

I wanted to share with you all something very interesting and thought-provoking. One of my favorite books is “The 10 Commandments of Common Sense” by Hal Urban. Of course there are the original 10 Commandments in the Bible which we are commanded by God to follow; it is the universal code of living. Now, I especially enjoyed this book because it touched on 10 more commandments which we should incorporate into our daily lives. It doesn’t matter what your religion is, what your beliefs are, or what part of the world you’re in, it’s safe to say that these commandments are universal.

3rd Commandment: DON’T USE DESTRUCTIVE LANGUAGE. (It hurts others, as well as yourself.)

In this chapter, the author (who is a teacher at a high school and also, a professor at a university) talks about how at the beginning of each school year, he puts a generous amount of time and energy into creating a positive environment in each of his classes. His high school students, as well as his adult students, participated in a class exercise where they compiled a list of different ways in which we can spray poison into our environment with our tongues without even realizing it. They gave the list a nickname and I would like to share this list with you.

The Dirty Thirty

  1. Bragging
  2. Swearing and other gross-out language
  3. Gossip
  4. Angry words
  5. Lies
  6. Mean-spirited and hurtful words
  7. Judgmental words
  8. Playing “poor me” – the self-pity game
  9. Making discouraging remarks
  10. Embarrassing and humiliating others
  11. Excessive fault-finding and criticism
  12. Complaining, whining, moaning, and groaning
  13. Rude and inconsiderate language
  14. Teasing
  15. Using words to manipulate others
  16. Phony and insincere compliments; false flattery
  17. Ethnic and racial slurs
  18. Sexist comments
  19. Age-related put-downs
  20. Being negative; always pointing out what’s wrong
  21. Threats
  22. Arguing
  23. Interrupting
  24. Playing “trump” – always topping someone else’s story
  25. Being a know-it-all
  26. Sarcasm
  27. Yelling, screaming
  28. Talking down to people; being condescending
  29. Exaggerating; blowing things out of proportion
  30. Blaming and accusing others

Honestly, how many of these things are we really guilty of?! Truthfully speaking, when I first read this list, I was so disgusted with myself! I can point out a good 20 things I need to work on like, immediately! I’ve had my fair share of saying things I didn’t mean and have later come to regret them. We all have. We’re human. However, I’ve came to realize that if I were to watch my words to begin with, I would leave no room for regret. I consider myself a very positive person and yes, there are days where I feel like I’m down in the dumps, but I keep positive people around me and read positive books. I pray, I talk to myself, I talk to friends who rejuvenate my spirit, I read, I write, I say positive affirmations daily, and I have definitely seen a substantial amount of growth over the years. Not only has this book been an eye-opener, but the list above is a “reality check” because we truly do not realize the countless number of ways we can spray poison into our environment. It is so important to pay more attention to what comes out of our mouths.

Hal Urban went on to say that this list helps us understand more clearly why Solomon advised us to guard our lips. “He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.” – Proverbs 13:3. Equally important, James warned us of the poison we could spread with our tongues. “But the tongue can no man tame; it is a restless evil, it is full of deadly poison.” – James 3:8

It’s never too late to start working on yourself!!! Change starts from within! A good friend of mine, who is a personal trainer, told me about a 95 year old woman at his gym who gets it in! Now, if that’s not wanting to work on yourself, I don’t know what you’d call it!

Divine Appointments


Have you ever had a coincidence which was so special that it seemed like God was completely, 100% behind it? A divine appointment is a “meeting” which was inspired and God-led. God is sovereign; He is all-knowing and all-powerful. God blesses us each and every single day and wants to continue to bless us. Obviously, this can be done in an infinite amount of ways. The possibilities of divine appointments are endless. If we are willing to be led by God, all great things are possible.

Before I start, I’d like to thank my friend, Mo, for a very enlightening conversation we had some time ago. After sharing one of my experiences with her, she bought to my attention that what I had experienced was indeed a divine appointment!

Now, I’ve had several experiences in my lifetime where I have literally stood there with my jaw on the ground, like, “If this wasn’t God, I don’t know what you’d call it!” One of my most recent experiences happened earlier today. I won’t mention any names, but my brother and I had been talking about this person for the past few weeks. We specifically spoke about this person last night and my brother let it be known that it was beyond crucial that he get in touch with this person. The problem was, he didn’t have his contact information, as this person is something like a “big deal.” Today, out of all the places I could’ve been and out of all the people I could’ve seen, why did this person appear out of nowhere? It was nothing short of a divine appointment! Now, I’m also a huge believer of “opportunities not coming and knocking on your door; instead, we must create them.” An opportunity of a lifetime could very well have been created earlier today. I am grateful I was able to make most of the situation. I asked God to give me the right words to say, I passed along my brother’s contact information, and now, we can only pray that he gets that phone call!

The moral of the story is this: God makes the impossible possible! Period, point blank, end of story.  I’ve learned that when we pray from the depths of our soul, even if you aren’t necessarily talking to God, as long as your prayer is from your heart, from your soul, from your Spirit, your prayers will be answered. Even if you come to Him in prayer and you don’t know what to say, your Spirit prays for you because it knows what you are feeling and knows what you want. And also, you never know how God will answer your prayer. He can put you in contact with just the people you need to be talking to. He can shift anyone’s schedule any way He chooses to, for any reason whatsoever. He answers to no one!

Even today, I literally stood there for about 30 seconds and let it all sink in. I could not stop thanking God for being so amazing! I am so thankful that He continues to always keep me in the right place at the right time, and I pray that He leads me to one divine appointment after another! The more, the merrier!

And seriously, had Mo not explained to me what a divine appointment was, I would still be thinking these were just some very random coincidences (of God, of course), but thankfully, I now know the proper terminology! Thank you, God, for placing people in my life and using them as vessels to get Your message across to me!!

Categories: Thoughts